Coaching Corner: Honoring Mom!
By Marilou Butcher Roth, Master Coach
Sunday is Mother’s Day. This may be a day that you celebrate as a mother, with your mother, or both. Or perhaps, not at all. In any event, we each came forth into this world via our mothers, and our experience in this world began at that moment. So, whether you had what you judge to be a good childhood, or a not so good childhood, we each learned something from the person we knew as mother.
Recently, I was having a conversation with my sister who is 10 years younger than I, and our childhood experiences were drastically different from each other. That may not make sense, and yet, it is quite true. My sister felt completely adored as a child -- I did not. No whining here, it’s just the way it was. I was the first born and apparently had more energy than most children (Imagine!!), causing my parents some high energy first child angst. All good, they loved me, it was simply a different experience than my sister.
So here’s the interesting part of the conversation. She said that because she felt so adored by our mother, she learned how to be that way with her children. Without hesitation, I easily responded that because I did not feel adored by our mother, I learned how to be adoring with my children. See how that works?? We learn regardless! Sometimes the learning comes from what we see and experience, and sometimes it is the lack of that experience that brings more clarity as to how we want to be. Beautiful, isn’t it?
Whatever your plans are for Sunday, remember that you learned about yourself, either consciously or unconsciously from your mother, and for that reason alone, it is cause for honoring that relationship. It doesn’t mean you have to have a great relationship with your mother, just have the awareness that this connection brought you many gifts, in one way or another!
Here’s to mom!
Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company working primarily with REALTORS who have a desire to work and live from a more inspired place. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati. Marilou is a member of the Ohio REALTORS Board of Directors and past chairman of the organization’s Communications Committee. Feel free to contact Marilou to see if coaching is right for you.
