Coaching Corner: Being good when things aren't
by Marilou Butcher Roth
Master Coach
This is a particularly challenging piece for me to write today, and if you observe my writing from afar, you will find me in bed, cuddled with my new love--Kleenex, with lotion! I came off of a Thanksgiving adventure geared up and ready to meet my week--fifteen coaching clients, three classes to teach, and various other commitments. Of all of those mentioned, only one happened. I have been canceling all week long, due to what some might be called the flu…who knows. The real kicker for me is that my voice has been taken from me, only to return for brief periods of time, me with a whisper and sometimes a squeak, depending on the day.
I know—boo hoo, poor me! Yep, I have been there, rolling around in self-pity like my grandmother’s rolling pin in flour. Feeling lousy was one thing, but no voice? Unfair! I eventually reached a moment of resignation, giving in to calling the doctor and putting my butt where it should have been the whole time.
We all have experiences that are not exactly to our liking (or choosing). It just happens that way sometimes. How can we make peace with those events that can occur seemingly out of the blue? How can we find perfection in the present moment? Not the easiest answer to find, I know. But, I can tell you that I have finally let go of resisting this unwelcome adventure and have focused on taking the best steps to bring myself back to health. It took a while for me to get there, and when I did, I found that things weren’t as bad as I had been thinking. The world wasn’t going to abruptly end because I had to cancel a class or a client.
Finding your path will allow you to experience the uncomfortable with more ease. Letting go of how things “should” be, and allowing things to be how they are, will bring you more peace.
I almost decided to skip this topic, which would have been fine, but I hope my experience might be of service to someone who might also be having a rough time.
Marilou Butcher Roth
Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company working primarily with REALTORS who have a desire to work and live from a more inspired place. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati.
Marilou is a member of the Ohio REALTORS Board of Directors and past chairman of the organization’s Communications Committee.
