Coaching Corner: What? Why? How?
By Marilou Butcher Roth, Master Coach
Let’s have a bit of fun today and do some prep for our upcoming new year. Each year, I write about the virtues and downsides of creating our desires for this yearly event. Most call these New Year’s Resolutions -- to which I say poppycock (lest I use another word that might be considered inappropriate). Resolution? Really? So, we resolve to do something that we determine, of at least hope, will make a difference in our lives. And we all know that most often, within a relatively short period of time, our so-called resolve gives way to other matters deemed to have great importance.
What’s the trick? How do we stay on track with the items we so carefully crafted at the end of the year? Well, there are no guarantees, but this may help.
First, begin with the WHAT -- what do you want to incorporate or accomplish? Writing it down is particularly helpful. It gives you something to look back to, as well as generating a feeling as you write.
Next, spend a few minutes on each item to explore WHY you want this particular item. How will your life be different? Who, if anyone other than yourself, will be impacted? Look at any resistance that may show up for you. Have you unsuccessfully attempted this same action in the past? Taking some time to explore this piece will give you a much greater shot at success.
Last, write out HOW you will incorporate this item into your life. Be realistic! Is there anyone else that may be a part of this? If so, make sure you are having a clear conversation with them.
As you continue through the fresh weeks of the year, check back in with your new year intentions and the reasoning behind them, keeping you in the loop of motivation. Remember, you are creating an agreement with yourself. As with any agreement, if it needs to be changed or deleted, you need to make that change consciously so it becomes a clear choice. If you stop the activity because you are “too busy,” you will compromise the integrity within yourself. Be clear about your choices and make the best ones for YOU!
Using the suggestions above as inspiration, I invite you to begin making your list of new year intentions today? The "you" in the new year will thank you for it.
Marilou Butcher Roth
Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company working primarily with REALTORS who have a desire to work and live from a more inspired place. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati.
Marilou is a member of the Ohio REALTORS Board of Directors and past chairman of the organization’s Communications Committee.
