Coaching Corner: Head to the buffet!
By Marilou Butcher Roth, Master Coach
Hopefully you have your 2021 intentions identified based upon your “wants” rather than your “shoulds.” If not, CLICK HERE check out my post on the subject. Over the week, I have had some further thoughts on this subject, that of course, I am going to share with all of you.
Whether you are just beginning your list, or you have it right in front of you, I want to bring another piece into the mix. In looking at your desires, ask yourself if there is anything within your life that you need to let go of to allow this (these) desire(s) to be fulfilled.
Are you still saying “yes” to activities and relationships that are truly a “no” for you? Don’t get defensive or self-blaming, we all do this at one time or another. The idea is to become aware of these and make the necessary changes to be able to move easily into the life you have identified.
In a session earlier this week, my client referred to the Bob Seger song Against The Wind, reminding me of how we can easily be working against ourselves in our journey to fulfillment and success. I especially remember the words “...deadlines and commitments, what to leave in, what to leave out...”
Have some fun with this -- imagine yourself at a lovely buffet, easing your way through the myriad of tasty morsels, waiting to be chosen by you. There, waiting amongst the yummies, you find some lima beans staring back at you with every hope of being chosen. Here’s the problem -- you cannot stand lima beans! Those lima beans look so nice, and wait, didn’t your mother always tell you how good they were for you. Oh shoot, maybe you should take them! DO NOT take those lima beans!!! Remember that you really do not like lima beans, no matter how appealing they look, no matter how good they are for you! Think about it realistically, you do not go through a buffet and choose things you do not like. However, where do you choose what you do not like in your buffet of life?
So, this week, revisit your list and gently identify what you may need to let go of to bring these well chosen items to fruition. Enjoy!
Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company working primarily with REALTORS who have a desire to work and live from a more inspired place. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati. Marilou is a member of the Ohio REALTORS Board of Directors and past chairman of the organization’s Communications Committee. Feel free to contact Marilou to see if coaching is right for you.
