By “Coach” Marilou Butcher Roth
Have you found that sometimes you make things, even life, harder than it needs to be? I know I certainly have! Today I am revisiting the idea of creating some structure in your life that supports you. Supports — not dictates. This is an important distinction — when people think about the idea of structure there can be automatic resistance. Not being a therapist, I could not give you clear reasons for this, however, I have seen it occur enough with clients that I can say it certainly does happen.
Routine. Now there is another word that has the potential for feelings of angst! We say we want routine and yet when it comes down to it, there are countless excuses for not establishing or continuing with chosen routines. So today, I have just one question for you:
What one routine could you put into place that would improve your life the most? Just one! Think about this — do not try to go global here, just keep it simple, yet powerful. You might choose an item pertaining to your business, or maybe your physical health. You could decide that mentally, you choose to read something every day. The key is to find something that when implemented, will improve the quality of your life in some way.
Well…what will it be?
Marilou Butcher Roth is the owner of The MBR Group, a coaching and training company working primarily with REALTORS who have a desire to work and live from a more inspired place. She is also the Broker/Owner of Group REALTORS in Cincinnati.
Marilou is a member of the OAR Board of Directors and past chairman of the organization’s Communications Committee. Feel free to contact Marilou to see if coaching is right for you: Marilou@mbr-group.com
Over the past 10-plus years hundreds of real estate professionals throughout the country have been murdered, violently assaulted, raped, beaten and robbed in the workplace. In fact, tragedy hit close to home four years ago when two of our own — Vivian Martin and Andrew VonStein — were killed in separate incidents on back-to-back days when showing vacant homes. More recently, the industry was shocked by the tragic, unfortunate murder of an Arkansas REALTOR who was similarly killed doing what a real estate professional does — simply showing a home. These incidents illustrate the importance of taking safety precautions in your daily activities. Our Ohio Safety Series is an ongoing effort to provide you with insights to ensure the safety of you and your clients.
If you were to find yourself alone in a property with a client who indicated they wanted to harm you or rob you, what would you do? Would you put up a fight or try to escape.
It isn’t pleasant to think about, but it’s important to know the facts. Experts agree that when escape is an option, that is the route you should take. Remember, your primary goal in any incident is to escape from the danger and call for help.
When faced with menacing behavior, you should first try to find a discreet way of removing yourself from the situation. Try to avoid triggering the emotion a predator might use to justify an attack. For example, you can say that you need to step outside to make a phone call and then don’t come back inside.
If an attack does occur, trust yourself and stay as calm as possible. Think rationally and evaluate your options. There is no single right way to respond to a confrontation, because each situation is different. Your response should depend on the circumstances: the location of the attack, your personal resources, and the characteristics of your assailant and the presence of weapons. There are many strategies that are effective, but you must rely on your own judgment to choose the best one.
No resistance: Not resisting can be the proper choice in a given situation. An attacker with a gun or a knife may put you in a situation were you think it is safer to do what he or she says. If someone tries to rob you, give up your property, not your life.
Stalling for time: Appear to go along with the attacker. This might give you time to assess the situation. When his guard is down, try to escape.
Distraction and then flight: Obviously you should try to get away, but whether you can depends on many things, including your shoes and clothing, physical stamina, the terrain and your proximity to the attacker.
Verbal assertiveness: If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell “Stop!” or “Stay back!” Criminal have been known to leave a victim alone if he or she yelled or showed that he or she was not afraid to fight back.
Physical resistance: If you decide to respond physically, remember that your first response should be to flee the area or the the home. Act quickly and decisively to throw the attacker off guard while you get away. Your personal safety is your first priority. Property can be replaced, but the value of your life and health is beyond measure. Also, you should familiarize yourself with state law concerning self-defense, including the issue of what is proper and improper use of force to defend yourself during an attack.
Observation: Be sure to make an effort to get an accurate description of your attacker. Even the smallest details may give authorities a clue to finding the suspect.
Republished with permission, Columbus REALTORS, In Contract, September/October 2015
The Ohio Association of REALTORS Communications Committee Chair Anjanette Frye (left) and Vice Chair Rick DeLuca (right) present the organization’s 2015 Certificate of Merit to Sally Johnson, president of the Akron Cleveland Association, during the Board of Directors meeting at the OAR Annual Convention & Expo, Sept. 22, in Columbus.
The Akron Cleveland Association of REALTORS was honored with a 2015 OAR Certificate of Merit for its involvement in a number of local community service projects over the past year, including volunteering at Rebuilding Together Northeast Ohio (serving both Cuyahoga and Summit counties), Akron Canton Food Bank and Greater Cleveland Food Bank. Additionally, contributions from its foundation, Real Estate Community Cares, throughout the year totaled $6,000, notes ACAR Committee Chair Roger Casale.
ACAR on the immediate results of the project: In July 2015, REALTOR volunteers worked at the home of a Vietnam veteran, repainting the foundation and porch, rebuilding crumbling exit stairs, cleared the yard of overgrown trees and bushes, installed a United States flag and planted flowers.
Several volunteer shifts at the local food banks resulted in more than 8,200 meals being provided to families in need. ACAR also conducted two food drives resulting in the collection of 540 pounds of food and other items to serve 425 additional families in need.
ACAR on the project’s long-range goal: ACAR is committed to Rebuilding Together’s long-range goals to keep elderly, disabled and veteran homeowners in their homes — making them warm, safe and dry. The program also improves property values.
ACAR is committed to the food banks because families no longer visit “emergency food” sources for temporary relief, but rely on food pantries as a supplemental food source. Seniors, who are so often limited by fixed or no incomes are shown to be among the most consistent pantry clients.
By Greg Stitz, OAR Director of Research
More than half (57 percent) of the respondents to OAR’s most recent Ohio REALTOR Housing Confidence survey indicate they have observed an increase in interest in first-time home buyers purchasing their first home. This is an increase of seven percent from the 50 percent indicating so when the same question was asked in September 2014. This year 24 percent of Ohio REALTORS notice no change in interest compared to 36 percent last year.
Survey results are based on responses to a monthly survey, designed to capture the effects of the existing economic conditions and trends on the real estate industry, sent to a pool of 1,500 OAR participants. Click here to participate in future OAR Housing Confidence Surveys.
By Paul Glass, OAR Director of Political Affairs
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